Answer: I believe it is our responsibility as parents to inform and educate our children about many things, including sexuality. As your girls become teens, they may continue to talk freely to you, but it also would be normal for them to balk when it comes to talking about certain topics, such as sex. Don't wait for them to ask you; they never may bring it up. Talk to them about sexuality now. They will get better information from you than from peers.
It often is hard for parents to start conversations about sexuality. Sometimes it's easier when you share an article in a newspaper or magazine and ask them what they think about it. Other ways are to talk about something you've seen together on television, or to talk about the lyrics in a song. It's best to ask what they think about the issue first. If you can listen without overreacting or judging, they will listen when it is your turn to talk. You'll have plenty of time to state your own opinions calmly and give your girls clear information on your values.
It's a good idea to gather some pamphlets, booklets or books on sexuality, health and birth control, because your talks probably will lead to a quest for more information. What you gather will depend on your values. School and public libraries, bookstores, churches, health agencies and your doctor all will be able to suggest publications.
One resource in the Detroit area is Northland Family Planning Clinic, 559-0590, 9-5 weekdays, or 1-800-447-7354, 9-5 weekdays.
Here's a tip. If your first conversations do not go well, maybe it's because of your discomfort. If you are uncomfortable, your daughters will be, too. The best way to deal with this is to be honest about your feelings. Tell your kids this is new to you and ask them to understand and help you out.