Terrible Two's : Helpful Hints

by Alvin Eden, MD

I'd like to pass along to you some suggestions that will help control your toddler's destructive tendencies and temper tantrums.

  1. Distraction. Try to redirect your child to another activity, like playing some music or turning on the T.V.

  2. Separation. Remove him from the place where he is causing trouble. If he is in the park and bites his friend, take him home. It doesn't work to scream and yell, just do it quietly.

  3. Explanation. Explain why you are acting a certain way. Setting rules and regulations and not explaining them is unfair.

  4. Compromise. Yes, sometimes give in. Allow him to make some decisions. By letting him win some small arguments, you'll have a better chance to win the big ones.

  5. Punishment. Yes, there is a place for punishment, such as taking away privileges. Spanking should be reserved for special occasions like running out into traffic. I don't believe a child should ever be physically abused. A smack across the backside is more than enough for him to get the message.

    If you keep these five rules at the ready you can reasonably expect to escape toddlerhood in one piece.

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